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Following the advice below is like exhaling while holding your breath: Not to mention the stream of exhortations to tone up, look younger, accessorize better—it’s endless.In my decades of work as a psychotherapist, I’ve heard so many clients report that they feel like the walking wounded after spending years trying to play these games.But there’s good news, backed by solid research: It’s the real, hard-won skills of authentic intimacy that lead to healthy love—not the skills of game-playing.In 1985, evolutionary psychologist David Buss conducted an extensive study of the traits people rate as most important in finding a mate, and his finding was clear: The quality people valued most in a potential mate was the most important factor in finding and keeping healthy, passionate, romantic love.We to be extravagantly choosy when it comes to choosing a life partner. The skills of dating are simply the skills of healthy intimacy.It takes real bravery to turn away from the dating advice that tells us to be different, better, and shinier and instead rely on the worth and beauty of our own authenticity. I've witnessed this many times, with clients, friends, and in my own life. In the words of Chip Conley, author of This sounds too reasonable and logical.
So you are supposed to find your emotional gratification in bodice-ripper romance novels and movies, shopping for clothes, and having your hair/make-up/nails/eyebrows "done" and simply accept that the modern world has nothing to offer but money for sex.(Related: a lunch date with the most exciting woman in food - Gizzi Erskine) I spend Sunday evening with F, a petite Spanish peasant from Lovestruck.She’s furious about the amount of tax she pays in the UK; I pick up the bill for her three large Merlots and head home alone."At the end of the day, trying to “become irresistible” is little more than an exercise in self-loathing." There a fair amount of self-loathing already roaming around in most people; in fact, they've probably been trying to make themselves more attractive since their first failed significant relationship--their parents--which never worked.
In the present, the risk of being authentic with someone is the biggest risk they could take, because in the past of their childhood, it resulted in the most painful rejection imaginable.
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